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LAP TIME-IN: AGES 1 3
Works best for: Children who are hitting, biting, throwing toys or who are too upset to follow directions.
Adapted from: Kathleen Gray, child development specialist at the University of California - Davis
How to do it: 1. Ask the child to stop the problem behavior. If this does not work, then gently control the child by placing your hand on their shoulder or thigh. 2. If this does not work, then pick up the child and walk away from the scene. Sit down in a quiet place and hold the toddler on your lap. Say, You seem upset. Let me help you quiet yourself. 3. Become an ally to the child. Talk about what just happened, indicating that you understand the circumstances surrounding the childs behavior. 4. Describe your limits regarding the problem behavior and stress the standard you will maintain on it. (Children are not allowed to hit each other here. If you hit, I will stop you and you will sit on my lap until you can stop hitting. 5. Even very young children understand the tone of your words and the meaning behind them.
Dos and donts: 1. Make eye contact with the child if this is culturally appropriate. 2. Speak firmly, calmly, respectfully and kindly to establish your authority. 3. When physically engaging a child, avoid grabbing, jerking and using other forms of physical disrespect. 4. If child refuses to sit on your lap for a short time, indicate via a firm touch and a firm voice that You may not get up yet because you are still upset and not ready to play with other children. You need to sit on my lap until you can quiet yourself. 5. This affirms the goal (self-quieting) and that the child is not being punished. 6. The more that you use gentle but firm touch, the more that the child will comprehend your message and attune with you.
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