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เอามาฝากคุณลูกตาล คนที่เขียนมาถามโดน Westie rules เข้าเต็มๆ
Dear Miss Jane,
Hello, my name is Andria and I live in Toronto, Canada with my westie-child, Emily. My Emily will be 3 years old in August and she has been with me since she was a 10 week old pup.
The reason that I am writing to you is , I have had problems training Emily. She is totally bossy and will not come to me, even if I offer her treats. She will sit occasionally, but only if it suits her. She talks back to me ALL the time, and quite frankly ... I have no control over her. I have tried clicker training her and I have not been successful. We go out for walks and she lunges at bigger dogs and street trade individuals (we live in downtown Toronto). She screams at people on the street for talking too loudly and wants to bite them. I should say that Emily has never bitten anyone, but I fear that she would bite people and other big dogs on the streets ... if she ever got close enough!! I find her behavior extremely difficult and can't let anyone else walk her, for fear that they wouldn't be able to control her. I know that it is myself that has created this tiny bully, but is it too late?
When Emily was a baby, I will admit that I never disciplined her... I was afraid of breaking her spirit!!! Well, now she is breaking mine. She knows that she is the boss of my house. The problem is, Emily tries to be the boss of EVERY household that we visit and I have been thrown out of many, because of her behavior. I love Emi and wouldn't trade her for the world, but my 11 year old cockapoo Samantha has to put up with her tantrums as well. When I give Samantha attention, Emi starts screaming and pushes Sami out of the way. Friends and family are tired of Emily's behavior and my lack of discipline with her. The problem is, I then get defensive of her and feel the need to protect her. I usually end up taking her everywhere with me. She is my baby and I can't seem to discipline her. You have no idea of how cute she is. Believe me, I have tried over the last 2 months to crate her when she's screaming at me and being bossy to Sami. After 15 minutes in the crate, she comes out and for the rest of the day, she ignores me and withholds affection. So what do I do? I spend the day begging her for her forgiveness and giving her treats ... its a vicious cycle!!
Jane, if you have any advice, please send it to me. I know that I have done wrong with Emily from the start, but I do want to correct the problem. I want a happy, well-adjusted and obedient westie.
Thanking you in advance,
Andria
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Hello Andria,
The first thing that I want to point out is that Emily, no matter how sweet and adorable, is NOT a child. She is not a baby in a furry body, she is a dog. I am not saying this to be cruel but I am going to point out how the rules work in the dog world. Dogs instinctively want to pack together, but in that pack there is ALWAYS a leader, a head honcho. Dogs don't share, they don't become equals, the rules say it is like a totem pole, Alpha (first) dog at the top, then subordinates fall below in order. It is like a ladder, ABCDE .... E dog is NEVER above any of the other dogs, C dog is never above B dog. Eventually a more dominant subordinate could fight the alpha dog for top spot but until that happens, everything runs smoothly.
You seem to realize that she has become "a tiny bully" and you ask if it's too late ... NO, but you have to change YOUR whole way of thinking regarding Emily. Dogs certainly display certain types of behaviour that we humans also possess such as jealousy and anger, but dogs are not our human equals and if given half a chance, dominate the household and create total chaos for all involved.
You must be CONSISTANT. Don't fuss at her for something and then go and apologize. The more you do that, the more she realizes you have no clue what you're doing and she may help you understand HER rules by giving a nip or two. Dogs like dead-set predictable rules. It makes them feel secure, but the more you waffle back and forth about enforcing those rules the more you lead the dog to think you just aren't cut out for the job of lead dog, so the dog takes over.
Stop apologizing to Emily, make her apologize to you. If you put her in her crate for not following YOUR rules, and you go to let her out, just do so quietly with no fuss. You have got to reverse who is running the show. So by ignoring her attitude you tell her that you are no longer going to approve of that type of behavior. She will eventually come around to you, but don't beg for it, never.
I don't mean ignore her behavior; you need to enforce the "law". When you are out walking with her, and she starts going berserk, give her a firm yank on the lead and tell her QUIET or carry a spray bottle with you and shoot her with water every time she goes for the people. What has happened is, she has ruled you all this time, now she is trying to rule everyone else. Her next move would be to bite, I guarantee it. NEVER apologize to her when you correct her, and I don't mean just saying you're sorry, but petting her or feeding her either. You give a correction and move on. She will learn to
deal with it, and very soon she will realize who the head honcho is and start becoming a sweet, friendly little Westie.
My next suggestion is to enroll her in an obedience class. It's easier to learn a hands-on approach. That way you can really start to see an improvement. But again, you have to change your own mind-set as well, she's not a human she is a dog, with strength and power in teeth and jaws. You want a companion not a dictator.
~ Jane
Source:http://westiewisdom.westieworld.com/vol1_5.html
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