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Nirat re-entered the USA in November of 1997, how she got through customs without being arrested is mystery to me. She came to my house and tried to take the kids with her. Nirat said she would give me full custody of the kids if I gave her $50,000.00. I told her that she was no longer my wife and that I had full legal custody of our children.
I called the police and let them know my ex-wife with a federal arrest warrant was at my house. Good God, 12 Patrol cars showed up! (SUPERB - Stick) Nirat was arrested on her federal arrest warrant. This situation really upset the kids badly. They had resigned themselves that their Mom had left them and no longer wanted them in her life. They heard her try to extort money from me for legal custody. What a damn mess this marriage had turned into!
Nirat was arraigned on the bank / mortgage fraud charges and was remanded to county custody for the night. She called me and tried to charm me with a story of how she had fallen in love with another man in Thailand and that the relationship was over. She professed her undying love for me and apologized repeatedly and tried to get me to pay for a lawyer. Nope, no way Babe!
Nirat had a bail hearing and a moronic liberal judge released her on her own recognizance. They didn't seize her passport because she did not have it on her person or belongings when she was arrested. Nirat was on the next flight out of the USA. Nirat now has a "fleeing federal justice" charge tacked on her charges.
Nirat called me in the summer of 1998. She said she really missed her children and wanted to speak with them. I told her to go to hell and leave us alone. She then said her boyfriend had taken all her money and disappeared and that she was in dire straits financially. Ah, poetic justice perhaps!
She cried and pleaded with me over the phone. I almost believed her. She was very convincing, pushing every emotional button she could remember. She said she just needed 50,000 baht to rent an apartment and pay for food. I told her to go to Nana Plaza and get a job as a gogo dancer. I hung up the phone and have not heard from her since.
The emotional toll of this family crisis has affected my children in unexpected ways. My son and daughter no longer want to be a part of their Thai culture. They refuse to eat oriental food or associate with anyone who is Asian. They used to speak fluent Thai, now they will not listen to anyone speaking an Asian language. I have worked tirelessly to get them on an even keel. I let my kids know the unvarnished truth of my situation with their mother and all of the issues involved including her arrest and charges pending against her. Sometimes the truth really sucks. I would rather they know the truth instead of a sugar coated interpretation of the facts.
I have been going out with a young Chinese woman who is a nurse. My daughter flew into hysterics when she found out I was dating an Asian woman. After the flap was over, my daughter sat me down and tearfully pleaded with me to not go out with Asian women because they are greedy, scheming, and don't love their children. This situation ripped my heart in half. I hugged and held my daughter and told her that this was not what Asian women did and were like. I'm afraid that the emotional scars of her mother's behavior and abandonment will be with her for life. I will do whatever it takes to get her over this hump in the road.
My son has taken a "roll-with-the-punches" attitude and has managed to put some of the pain behind him. I still see his pain, he tries to cover it up with bravado and macho behavior. He talks about his Mom in the past tense as if she was dead. I guess she is to him at this point in his life. I hug my kids often and tell them that they are loved a number of times each day. They protest when I hug them, saying that they are being squished, too bad: I will squish them anyway.
My Chinese girlfriend has kept her distance, but she is slowly creeping into my family life. My daughter has taken a cold Foreign Asian women are bad attitude to my girlfriend, but she is melting. Ming has a way of disarming my daughter's emotional defenses. Perhaps my daughter sees her as a mom figure, perhaps as an older sister and a friend. My kids have told me not to marry again and that it's OK to have a girlfriend, even if she moves in. I have some seriously cool kids!
If you want to have children with a Thai woman, consider ALL options, cultural differences, think it over twice and then three times again. Above all else: Make sure she is genuine and open with her motivations. Honesty seems to be a moral value used in small amounts in Thailand. I still love Thai girls and their beauty; you really need to look beneath the surface to make sure you are getting inner beauty too otherwise you may end up like me or some of the other guys who have had their lives and hearts torn asunder by a Thai woman.
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Jennifer Lowclass
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