When we ask women to behave, and when the society collectively punish those who do not behave according to Thai tradition, are we justified? Traditions is nice and all that, but it is not without cost. Inferior legal protection and limited career advancement opportunity are inevitable if one is to accept the Thai concepts of gender roles. Worse yet, in the classic Thai model, these questions on women's status will be decided by none other than men. Thus, is there any basis to rationally defend Thai traditions regarding women, or is the appeal to tradition simply a euphemism for the oppression of women?
เนื้อหาบางส่วนที่ฝรั่งเขียนครับ You must also remember that the THAI WOMAN IS ALWAYS RIGHT even if you no, and the woman knows that she is wrong, THEY WILL ‘NEVER’ ADMIT TO BEING WRONG OR ADMIT TO MAKING MISTAKES (that’s loosing ‘FACE’). They are uneducated, my wife having a 3rd grade education, the rest of the woman, anywhere from a 3rd to 8th grade education (the equivalent of a 1st to 4th grade education in other countries) and YOU CANNOT TEACH THEM ANYTHING. If you are lucky enough to find a Thai woman with a ‘degree’, remember this, a ‘university degree in Thailand’, is about the equivalent of a ‘high school education’ in developed nations and the ‘women’ are no better than the bar girls. The Thai woman are also the BEST LIARS, STORY TELLERS, SEX-LIMITED, GREEDY, MANIPULATIVE, EXTREMELY JEALOUS, RUDE, NO CONSCIENCE, CHEATS, THIEVES, NO VALUES, etc. people I have ever met - and I have travelled all over the world - do I needed to go any further? To get some REAL insight into the Thai culture and woman, watch some Thai ‘soap operas’ on the TV. This is ‘real’ life!
Marriage
A Thai Woman will love me forever. They are family oriented and will always be there for ME. WRONG, WRONG, WRONG AGAIN.
OK! So you are still not convinced that marriage to a Thai woman would be that bad! Try this next time you are in the ‘Land of Smiles.’ Find the girl you are ‘in love with’ and keep her for a few days or a week, and then ‘butterfly’ on her (go out with another girl). When YOUR girl finds out, and she will, you will have living hell to pay if she is anything like the rest of the prostitutes. Make sure that you really listen to her when she is ranting and raving - NOW YOU KNOW WHAT MANY YEARS OF MARRIAGE TO ONE WILL BE LIKE.
OK! Still not convinced! Then I have a little ‘secret’ for you. Marry the Thai way. What? Just as I tried to explain the ‘two kinds of poor’ in Thailand there also ‘two kinds of marriage in Thailand - with ‘certificate’ and without certificate! Of course this would only apply if you plan to live in Thailand and want to live in ‘HER’ village or close by.
OK! I’m game - tell me - I live in Thailand. When you find the girl that you are madly in love with and she is ‘pretending’ to love you, suggest to the young lady that you want to marry and live with her. She should be ‘tickled pink’ to finally marry - MONEY. Tell her that you want to get married in HER VILLAGE - Thai style. Tell her, ‘You have always wanted to marry Thai style.’ Once in her village, she will arrange everything. The most important part for YOU is buying a 2 or 3 Baht GOLD chain (about 11,000 to 16,000 Baht) and a ‘dowry’ of 20,000 Baht for the family (you may have to pay more - 50,000). You give the GOLD chain to your new wife on the wedding day and the 20,000 - 50,000 Baht to the wife’s family. Now, find a place to live. A cheap house / condo / apartment will do and settle in as husband and wife. DO NOT RECORD THE MARRIAGE AT THE ‘AMPUR’ - THE WIFE MAY WANT YOU TO DO THIS - JUST KEEP PUTTING IT OFF. Also remember, you the ‘farang’ cannot OWN ANYTHING in Thailand (land, house, cows, etc.).
Up to this point it has cost you 36,000 to 66,000 Baht plus housing (rent) - OR $837 US to $1534 US. Another way to translate this is between 36 and 66 ‘pieces of ass’ (not including hotel costs, etc.). So if you stay married after 30 days YOUR AHEAD. To keep your ‘lover’ happy make sure that you buy her another GOLD chain (1 Baht chain at 5,600 Baht) each week (possibly every other week - You should know when to buy - the ‘sex’ starts getting ‘cold’) and she will love you to death and you will have the ‘best’ sex you could possibly imagine. You may also have to expend money for new clothes (for her) and other items. But what the hell, your married. Just keep track of the expenditures and the number of times you have ‘sex’ to see that you are getting your moneys worth.
By the time your first 2 months of marriage bliss is over you should be ahead from a financial stand-point - prostitute versus wife.
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